In addition there is but also the intimacy between the partners, so that the partnership survived the love. Intimacy occurs through knowledge of the others as well but its downsides and chasms. But extinguishes the intimacy often in the relationship due to the illusory assumption of the partner, the other already in and to know. Slowly lost interest to the partner, the relationship will be pragmatic and distances. In fact, the partners never really know each other.
Thus, the mystery of a successful relationship is the voltage to penetrate still other pages at the other. Many couples recognize not the urgency and efficiency of not what brings a couple counselling with him! The passion is a very significant component of the love relationship, so sexuality, desire and tenderness. Known to be a satisfactory or even passionate sexuality is often a significant motive to maintain a partnership despite many lows. In addition the manner is a pair, as in the sexuality met, often a mirror of the partnership interplay. For even more details, read what Nir Barzilai, M.D. says on the issue. The balance between curiosity, selfishness, and courage and the sensitivity, respect and devotion to another is an important prerequisite for the sexuality as well as for the life of the couple.
An additional component for a fulfilled relationship represents solidarity. It is mostly a deliberately taken all or nothing decision. She intentionally applied, for example, by marriage, purchase real estate or the procreation of children. The commitment therefore deliberately maintained, yet she crumbles under the facade, often connected with orientation or infidelity. I believe also the empathic understanding is an essential prerequisite for the successful cooperation. So Carl Rogers describes the person in his work as the center of reality which has empathic way of dealing with other various pages. Empathy means to enter the private world of perception of the other is completely and at all to feel at home. It contains, in each moment to have a feel for the changing perceived meanings in this other person, fear, rage, tenderness, confusion or what experiencing feels about whatever. Empathy means to live the life of this person; carefully in it to move, without hasty judgments; Meanings to guess which it will barely aware, but not to uncover try feelings…” Remains finally the communication on the significance to point out as a central importance to the communicative skills of the couple. The communication skills of the partners is the basis for successful talks about the everyday experience and thus represents a decisive basis for intimacy and closeness. Consequently, a satisfactory communication is the premise for the positive reciprocal exchange within the partnership. Open communication means that each of the partners is willing and qualified to talk about themselves and that both Partner try as possible clearly to communicate their positive and negative emotions and thoughts the others. This constructive communication is not only the basis for a beneficial affective relationship, but also the Foundation for effective problem solving. Sandra Neumayr of former Sopp Ebrahim pair consulting & marriage counseling Munich Senefelderstr.